when we put our self out there, there are always who likes us and there are always who doesn't likes us. and it's okay.
it is undeniable.
it's like when you make a book, or a song, or let's take iPhone for example. every products that apple launch, there is always some people who likes it and some people don't. not everybody has to like us, and we don't need to please everybody either. every individuals are unique, and everyone have their preferences. it is not wrong.
how about those people who doesn't like you and yet, spread some bad rumours about you? what about those people who are bad mouthing you? talk about you behind your back? what about that makes us feel?
it is not okay, but there are always people who are like that.
what we can control is our attitude towards those people and how we deal with those rumours. some people choose to ignored it. some people choose to clapped back. some people choose to act against it. some people choose to give them what they want to see. so, the questions is, what do you want to do with it?
recently, i have to deal with some noisy people who invaded my privacy in my private place. they listen to every sound i made, every time i talked to someone or make some phone call they are always listening. they assumed, then make gossip out of it.
i chose to ignored them at first.
until one time, when i talked to my friend, i realize how annoying they are, and how they make me feel not safe to do things in my own house. then my friend said something, "if you live in US, you can report them and get restricted order. don't Indonesia have some laws to people like that too? why do you have to behave in your own home? you are a girl, alone at your parent's house, and they are some old guys, next door, who are watching your every move and listen to every conversation you do. does that not sounds creepy to you? it is sure sounds creepy to me."
so i decided to do something and let them know that I'm about to do something.
I called my friend, who is lawyer, and make conversation about how I can bring laws into this whole situation. I know that they will listening. they did. they are paniced and tell everyone in the neighborhood that i want to sue them. to report them and take this situation in front of the law.
they forget one crucial thing; the fact that they know about the sue and the report, is the fact that they are listening to every conversation i had.
people talk, i know.
does that matter? depends. in this case, I'm too proud of myself, making this brave decision, rather than to be bothered about my reputation in the neighborhood. if there are many opinions about this, and they will, at least it shows how i stand up for myself. when my friend put my situations like that, i realized why i have been bothered by them.
this whole situation is creepy.
with them listening every sounds i make, every conversation i have, make comments about when i take a showers (when they hear water running), or what I'm doing (if i didn't make a sound, they thought that I'm sleeping. if i did make a sound, they will discuss what i am doing at the moment), or about things i do (when I'm cooking, or watch tv, or eating). one day i got home early and was looking for food, then i hear them talked, "who is it? is it the older (me) or the younger one (my sister)?"
i hear one of them answer, "i don't know. i didn't see when she arrived. ask him! he was in front of the house."
i used to shake it off, because i think i have no time and energy to deal with those kind of people, but they keep bothering me. it is creepy. the fact that they know what I'm doing and concerned about who is in my family got home first. i mean, who are they? we don't know each other that well. they are just some contractors who are busy rebuilding a house next to ours.
my point is, we got to choose how we react to those situation. to any situation life thrown at us, including how to deal with people reaction to our acts. not everyone will understanding my choice to get serious and involved law in this situation, but that's okay. I'm doing this for me, not for the story or for the people to watch. I'm doing this because their acts are bothering me so much and they are chose to talk about this situation to people, rather than to me, the one who are they have problem with. i think it's shows what kind of people they are. people will have opinions about this situations. some might support, some might hate, some might behave, some might.. fight back.
and that's okay.
that's call life. full of ups and downs, dramas, mistakes, hate and anger, fear and anxious, love and laughs.. life is full of surprises. it doesn't matter how people talk or react about what we do, life is about choices we made. life is about how we handling every situation, every hard time, and if there are some people who doesn't like it or talk abou it, it's not our problem. it's theirs.
